Sunday, November 15, 2015

Fading importance

Man is an emotional animal. Emotions lead to feelings and feelings lead to relationships.
When we like somebody we tend to be attracted towards them and when the attraction is mutual , we tend to enter into relationships. 
Relationships give us an edge of others who are merely attracted towards the person we like. 
Relationships give us a sense of superiority in their lives and hence more importance. 
As man is a social animal and feelings build up everytime he sees a new person whether good or bad , our priorities tend to change. 
We want to feel important in every relations's lives and that is the reason why feelings such as frustration and dejection build up. Therfore leading to breaking of bonds and relationships. 

Yet a person who is once in a relationship  with someone wishes to ,still feel the same level of importance in their lives and takes a long time , sometimes more than expected to move on. 

Monday, November 2, 2015

Trust yourself

It is true that trust doesnt come easy. For some of us , it does. We suddenly become too happy about a new relationship and start trusting even before we completely know that person.
World is full of people with selfish motives. Some people are hardwired like that and some become like that due to their recent experiences. One should learn from their mistakes and not be foolish and trust people blindly too soon.

Everytime someone betrays your trust you feel a part of you has withered away.
One should make oneself believe that no matter who and how many people betray your trust , it is always a learning experience for you to not make the same mistake again.

If one trusts oneself ,he/she doesnot need anybody else. One person is enough and that is you ,yourself.

Saturday, October 31, 2015

Hidden Reality

Many if us judge the book by its cover.
what i mean by this is we judge alot of people in our own heads within a span of 1 minute ,the first time we meet them . We gradually get to know them better. Sometimes we like them, sometimes we feel we love them and sometimes we happen to detest them.
This is normal human psychology and tendency.

What is important is, out of the people we meet, judge , like or love , how many stick around and stand by the opinion we had created about them at first in our own heads. How many of them change our opinions about them. True, some surprise us with heir positivity and some surprise us with their change in nature by and by the time they stay and interact with you.

Its true that things take time and so do people.
They take time to unveil what is inside and what they are made of. Some people show their true colors soon and some take time. Trust and friendship and two very deep and important words. Their roots go deep , deeper than you can imagine. These roots take time to get stronger.

Taking inspiration from nature, even the bark takes time to get stronger and thicker. So does a relationship , trust and friendship.

It is true that man is a selfish animal and does not give away things unconditionally. If today somebody is favoring you , remember tomorrow he/she will definately claim it back. Sometimes it will be clearly visible and sometimes it wont be.

Train your eyes to see the hidden reality or else you shall be buried deep inside the soil in thise selfish world.

Friday, October 2, 2015

The GlamFam.

Glamour, Lights ,Camera, Fame and Respect. Things which entangle a  person in its web. A good start does not necessarily mean a good end. A good end does not mean a smooth journey.
Frustration , struggle and restlessness is everywhere but  here you wear a smile and hide all your fears.
The turmoil inside your heart , the fear you feel in your stomach while walking the ramp for the first time, the unbearable shriek of joy you feel inside ,an experience which makes you go deeper inside this web.
Some places makes us forget our paths. Some paths lead us to an unexpected end.
They say  thinking makes you loose the charm here but your personal choices determine what you want to believe and how you wish to transform your end.
A good start does not necessarily mean a good end
and a good end does not mean a smooth journey.

Thursday, June 11, 2015

Criticism easy given than taken

It is easy to criticize others than to take the criticism.
People who criticize others and are unable to take it themselves are termed as cowards. This rash opinion is a one with proof.
One who speaks behind someone's back actually speaks volumes about oneself. One who destroys one's picture by ink or by any other act actually destroys his/her own self.
It is the negativity inside a person which leads to the outflow of negativity.
It is appreciated and just to speak one's heart out, if not now , then later when you have the courage to do so. The day will eventually come. Until then to stay positive and to gather up the courage keep it inside and let it flow out to the concerned person when the time comes.
And you shall know when the time is right.

Sunday, May 3, 2015

Acceptance and Appreciation

We look for acceptance all the time. Be it at home , peers or work place.
We seek respect and we seek love.
Its the basic necessity of every human being .        
We should surround ourselves with people who give us that appreciation because sometimes we need that appreciation to realize our own worth and our own potential.
If till now you were with people who pulled the soul out of you because you did not feel content and satisfied with what you have achieved you are on the wrong track.
You need to change your gear and move towards the right one.
It's painful to part away from the people you have walked down the path which took so long but it is always better late than never.
You mite not be sure that you will find the right set of people down the other path  or you will end up at the perfect destination but what you can be sure is that you are not walking down the wrong path anymore. This is your time to make a decision and seek till you find.
Life is short , make the most out of it.
Appreciate yourself and do not settle for anyone who doesn't know your worth and doesn't respect it.
Surround yourself with people who help you grow and not make you question yourself if you can ? Hell you can! And you will!
Achieve what seems impossible because nothing really is.

Saturday, April 4, 2015

Give the time some time.

Sometimes we feel we dont know what we want. we are mostly in a  confused state when the decision is to be made on a particular subject.
The reasons for confusions can be plenty mostly , the confusion arises due to the turmoil between your heart and brain.
you heart says something but your brain says something
you might be happy doing something but you also know that you will not draw the same amount of happiness that you draw presently even though your satisfaction level would  be optimum if you choose the former.
when a situation like this arises all we should do is wait for the time to pass and have faith in ourselves and in life.
what is bound to happen will eventually happen , it is just  a matter of time. Life gives you opportunities to test yourself and explore yourself till the time you get the answer .
you mite spend your lifetime searching for a particular answer but the day you are on your deathbed you shall get your answer when you  scan your eyes through the regrets and your happiness,
the day shall come when you will know what you want and what  you are meant for .


Give the time some time.

Friday, March 27, 2015

Reason for which you started walking



We do a lot of things in life , we try a lot of things and we want to achieve a lot of things in life.
For that we start walking on a road. The road which leads to your goal.
However every road has many small lanes attached to them which look very attractive, full of flowers but which divert you from the road that you initially started to walk upon.
Never forget the reason why you started to walk on a road because when you miss the bus which is at the end of the road you regret it forever and it makes you feel under confident.
However better late than never
Learn to grow above your regrets and failures and start walking on a different road and this time don't let yourself get attracted to other lanes forgetting the reason why you initially started.
Catch the bus this time and Go further and further. Catch the plane and Fly into the sky.

One spaceship , one land where you belong

When you are over ambitious , you will feel you have not done enough and yes that will make you sad. There is nothing wrong in being over ambitious. Being ambitious is good. You are your own competititor and your own critic , what more do you want for your growth?
Satisfaction.
That's what you get when you have achieved what you had to achieve.
You might meet a lot of people on your journey who will not stay with you until the end of your journey.
Those who aim for the stars don't care about the trees.
If they too aimed for the same land where you aimed for your spaceships would eventually collide.

One, Just one is enough

Believe it or not we all need that one person who understands us through and through , supports us and caresses us.
We might be egoistic, too ambitious and might have plenty of friends whom we cannot trust but it enjoy their company.
However if we have that one person , Just one person is enough , who completes us and makes us happy even when we don't need him/her , be it your boyfriend, girlfriend or your best friend who stays with you all the time and never leaves your hand even when the entire world is busy doing their own work.
We do not understand their importance when we are happy but can never let go of them when we are sad and need that one companion who makes everything alright, who makes you feel you are not alone.

16 To 22

Its amazing how We in a span of few years of our college and high school meet Lots of people and make truck loads of friends or if I may say acquaintances.
These are our years to experiment and discover ourselves and in that duration of experimenting and discovering , we meet people, Work with them, Party with them, Chill with them. We find us in every experience we go through and that's the reason why we make new friends. Each person we meet gives  us one more opportunity to know ourselves, what we like, what we might be missing till now and what we shall miss later in life.
Sometimes its painful and sometimes we just don't care when people walk into and out of our lives.
We mite look at them in a crowd and turn away our faces or go up to them and hug like we have missed them forever.
Its amazing how our feelings change , Our priorities start to differ as we grow old

Its true the people we meet between the age of 16 to 22 are temporary , a few exceptions might be there of course but Most of them won't last forever. Not even for more than a year or simply a year.
That doesn't mean we stop socializing or stop partying.
We develop ourselves with every person we meet and spend time with even if its a few minutes. We should  accept that in these years the friendships might just be temporary ,don't bring them to close to your heart
And if they are that close to your heart, never let them go or wait for them to come back so that you know if what you think is actually true.

Saturday, February 21, 2015

Map your life

Some of us have our goals clear
Some of us don't know where to go with that fear
Stay in the zone walk that path
It mite take you there, where you belong.
Most of us don't have a goal in mind we haven't decided a clear destination in mind.
The key to find your destination is to work hard in whatever opportunity comes your way. Give you 100% wherever you feel it relates to your interest and explore yourself in that area.
You will discover a lot of new things , new deep seated skills which you were unaware of and gradually you will define your own path to your destination.
When life does not show you a clear path it is time for you to know that you should build your own paths.
Building your own paths can be risky because you never know where the road mite just break but it is a beautiful way to learn and be more successful than anyone in your own eyes.
When you see yourself as a successful person in your own eyes, nobody can take that success from you.
Define your own path, Define your own
Glory when life doesn't show you where you have to go.

Thursday, February 19, 2015

Plastics of happiness

How do we differentiate between two people who are almost equally good at athletics?
How do we differentiate between people who are almost equally good at singing or dancing?
Its through the trophies and certificates they have received. Isn't it? Or how Heavy their CV is.
We live in a world which is full of people who judge you by the number of trophies or certificates you have won.
In your student life a major incentive for you to participate in various clubs and activities is the piece of glossy paper with your name printed on it. We run after the materialistic gains in life rather than focusing on the knowledge and experience we get out of it.
We decorate our houses with the trophies that we can flaunt around when our friends and relatives come home.
Some of us excel in each field that we participate in however some of us do not due to lack of focus or luck at times.
But that should not stop us from trying.
Trophies is just sought of a morale boost that you have achieved something and pushes you to achieve more in life.
Its amazing how plastic can do wonders in our lives and teach us ,motivate us to do better.

Turning Tables

Positions, responsibilities ,Recognitions a kind of ego boost that all of us need an get at some point of our lives.
We should never forget our roots from where we had started our journey once we feel we have reached the Zenith.
We never do. It is a myth that we are at the top. It might take you uncountable efforts to reach where you feel you are at the top but it takes a fraction of that uncountable efforts to come down  lower to the place from where you had initially started.
We all should remember to stay grounded and remember our roots. We should always help others not forgetting  our own priorities of course because one day while serving others and fulfilling their priorities we might end up killing our own. People will move on after satisfying their needs or their Greed's but you will remain there itself.  It is Important to be humble and generous but it is equally important to be emotionally intelligent .
You might be at the delivering end of the table today but remember even when you are at the highest rung of your organization  ,there are people waiting for you to commit that one mistake which would turn the table around.
Be efficient and regular with your duties . staying regular with your duties and keeping your eyes and ears open is the best way to retain your position.
There might be people hierarchically above and below you , you should never take them as above or below you But equal. When in your mind you give each other an equal status you will end up behaving in same  manner as well by giving every person their due respect. Today you might be the person ordering around because you are regular and well versed with your duties but tomorrow you might not.

Wednesday, February 18, 2015

Three mirrors

I see life as three mirrors.

The first mirror is how others see  you.
The second mirror is how you see yourself
And  The third mirror is how you feel others see you.

We live in a planet full of humans. Whatever we see around today be it a  restaurant , a gadget , places of worship or even  a belief or a tradition ,they are all built by us, humans.
you might  feel you are a nobody in school/ college/ office you are still in  relation to someone.
you are still a brother/sister/mother/father/friend. Therefore never feel that you are inferior to anyone because  the importance that you hold on this planet cannot be held by anyone else. you are a different personality , if you die tomorrow , you will never die alone.

You should feel your own importance inorder to make your importance felt in life. You might be shy or a very outgoing person but that is what you perceive of yourself. And what you think about youself matters more than what other think about you .
If you want to be happy , you are responsible for making yourself happy .
How do we differentiate between a happy and a sad person?
A smiling face?
Arent we judging them now? judging whether that person is a happy one or sad one?
Exactly , this is what brings me to the third mirror.
You might feel that you are not a very judgmental person then why is the other person judging you ? the truth is that the human psychology works that way . We are judging everything 24*7
99% of the population is usually worried about what others think about them .It is their job to judge you, to notice things that is why god has given us sense organs -nose,ears,eyes,tongue and skin so that we perceive things and judge what is best for us.

The only mirror which should be of utmost importance for you is the second one. HOW YOU SEE YOURSELF.
You want to be a happy person?
Smile. Look into the mirror and smile. that will do the magic.
Laugh more often

you want to be overloaded with work even though you have none
tell you self OH MY GOD i have so much of work , i have to submit so many assignments or have too many chores to do. you psyche will automatically make you feel you are over stressed and you will end up looking stressed.

Its all in your mind and what your brain is a workshop , a workshop which can make the deadliest imaginations or put you to ease,

I believe everything that we do happen twice , first in our minds when we think that we are going to do it and second when we actually implement it.



Architects of future curtain their pasts

Your past is a good place to visit once in a while but not  a good place to stay .

We all have our dark secrets, our pasts , be it good memories or memories which make us sad. 
memories which illuminate us or memories which dampen our feelings.Some people become a very integral part of our lives but it is not necessary that they will continue with them forever. People grow and people move on , life is dynamic and that is the best part about it. 
We meet so many people in life and they can either be a blessing or a lesson. You may  end up going to bed thinking about someone but remember there is someone out there who goes to bed everyday thinking about you too. So be better human beings and be a blessing for others rather than being a lesson. 
Many a times we run from our past for varied reasons.If we have an opportunity to  meet someone from  our past we rather try to escape it than face it. Maybe we don't want to let the other person know how we feel about about them or we are too worried about them judging us about how we are now in comparison to how we were in the past. 
We should understand the power of time.Time changes everyone . time is ticking for everyone not just you but for them as well. if you have changed over a period of time , so have they .
We need to set ourselves free from the claws of our past and live in the present so that we can be the architects of our future.