Learn To Say Yes

Never hold on to your sorrow
For you donot know what lies before you tomorrow

A beautiful thought which crossed my mind today while i sat in my comforter looking out of the window on the pouring rain.
It is a beautiful feeling when you have been through struggles, been independent and appreciate the little things which life challenges you with. You know what matters to you the most and what doesn't. You know what relationships you need to invest on and which ones are just to be enjoyed in the moment and forgotten.

The people who have come into and gone from your life. The experiences which you want to capture and keep with you forever to remind you of how beautiful your life has become after they came into your life.
Life gives you opportunities to be with yourself and understand yourself better. Take those chances and live them. You never know what you end up discovering about yourself.
You will outgrow the materialistic pleasures of life and learn to let go of the baggage of the past. You shall be free and enjoy and would be ready to take every opportunity which comes your way.
Learn to say Yes and start fighting if it's tough or enjoying if it is your thing. You will never know if it is what you are cut out for unless you say a Yes.

Several ways of going down but only one way up

There are several ways to go down but only one way to go up.

Inspired by the Fuji mountain where people wear shoes made of straw as any other shoes which they would wear would get ruined due to the volcanic activity and soot which comes out.
Fuji mountain has only one way of going up and several ways of going down.
This inspired me to write about a very important lesson in life.
Many a times, we do things and delve into activities which are negative. Although we know the circumstances that it might have, on our lives or others' lives we still practice them.
This is due to factors such as greed and jealousy.
We pull others downhill thinking we shall climb few stairs up by doing so. We don't realize when we pull other people down, their weight brings us a few steps down as well.

Think of it, in one way, whenever we pull something, we do have an opposite reaction and we tend to fall backwards. Similarly, when we pull someone down, their weight of goodness and innocence brings us down as well.

The only way up is when we don't bother about what others are doing and we focus on ourselves as individuals competing with whom we were yesterday.
We should think of way of improving ourselves today with respect to who we were yesterday.
That is when, we will actually move up the ladder and we wouldn't require delving any kind of negative activities. It is highly important to know your competition and learn from your mistakes. It is highly important to assess where you are going and how you are doing by understanding why you are not doing well as compared to your fellow competitors. But, it is also important to appreciate your competitors because the lessons which you will learn about how to go up and reach the apex will also come from your competitors.
It is normal human psychology, a person learns more from what interests him. If you appreciate and take interest in your competitors , you will definately learn and grasp more.

The First in Last Out Principle

It is normal human tendency to get attached to new people as we progress in our lives.
It also a normal tendency to become more cautious about how much we share with people and to what extent we share our thoughts with people whom we meet as we grow up.
Age group of 18- 23 is the age when we meet the most number of temporary people in our lives. We are in our experimental mode and like to make new friends, like and be liked for who we are and what we do.
We want recognition and fame, we want to be 'popular' in our own domains.
As we grow older we meet more new people, but the people who have stuck around with us for more than 3 years on an average, we always count on them and never leave their side.
People make mistakes and even our friends who have been with us for a long time, they make mistakes which we don't want to forgive them for but since we have been together and stuck with eachother through our thick and thin , the mistakes seem very small in size and it is easy to overlook them.

Life follows the rule of first in , last out and not first in , first out. We should never forget the people who come into our lives first (during our initial years of life, when we actually start understanding friendship) are the last ones to leave our side.

Silence | Sword or a Band-aid

Silence is the best carrier of all emotions. Silence can be a sword or a band-aid in different situations.
Sometimes it covers ups the wounds that are open and sometimes it cuts through you leaving you open. Open to the feeling of pain and you feeling lost.

The reason why silence is still preferred by all is because it shall never offend anyone.

It may sometimes even act as catalyst for you to realize what you desire as it opens up a door into your soul which only you know is open.

It is true, unsaid words are sometimes better than some words said wrong but sometimes when the words remain unsaid , you shall remain lost in your own world hoping for the words to be communicated and they shall remain un-communicated.

Pearls of wisdom - some in everyone

Positivity breeds happiness

Many a times when we are positive and happy , we unknowingly leave impressions which give others a way of viewing life in a more positive way.
Everybody goes through the negative fluctuations in life, when the slightest of disconnect with their happiness gives birth to pessimism.
Whenever you come across a person who needs some kind of push inorder to feel cormfortable about what he/she is doing, speak up.
Speak your heart and speak how you would tackle the problem if you were the one facing the problem.
Helping others by even a single line of positivity helps them overcome their obstacles. Its miraculous how you can help someone by just one line of optimism and they come back and thank you later.
Even if tomorrow, that person doesnot come back to you and thank you for your optimism, god shall treat you one day with what you have done for him/her.
Each person on this planet has the potential and the power to affect someone's life and make their life count by giving away pearls of wisdom.
Its amazing how a 20 year old can also change the way of thinking of a 50 year old adult or a baby's smile can bring exuberance in an adult's life.
Every person has the pearls of wisdom which they gain through their experiences in life.

Internal strength

Bring me to life , bring me the eternal happiness.
I have gone through experiences which have taught me long sightedness.
I was young and i was gullible
I made mistakes which i myself was unaware of ,
My loved ones kept me on the right path ,
Bringing joy and immense love to my golden years
No, i am not old , i am still very young
There is time for me to paint my own life very bright.
Some left , some stayed and those who stayed fortunately would love me till the end.
Yes, Bad times are followed by good times .
Some are there to explain the beauty of good days and some to test my strengths.
Beauty, elegance, faith and far sightedness these things shall remain with me forever till the time i remain sane. 

Challenges-Transformation into confident individuals

We all go through multiple obstacles everyday.
Each one of us have our own battles to fight.
We crib about what is not right in our lives and we envy others for the success they have achieved in their lives.

We should understand , the more successful a person is , the more hardships  that person has undergone and shall continue to undergo.
Successful people don't question why they are doing a particular task and what shall be the outcome of it. They are thankful for the opportunity they have in hand and they cherish it.

The day you feel thankful for where you are and the opportunities you have is the day you shall stop worrying and shall start growing.

No person can grow without overcoming challenges in life. If today, you are facing a challenge in your career or academics , be thankful to god as it shows that you have a golden opportunity to overcome it and grow.
Once you overcome the challenge you will come out of the bubble of hopelessness and grow into a more confident individual. 

Trust, a Gift to Cherish

Trust is one of the most important things in a relationship.

It is  one of the building blocks of the peace of mind of every human being.
Humans have a tendency to associate themselves to people and association gives birth to trust.

Trust usually starts at a very minimal level, the level where you first exchange your names and identities. It grows further with exchange of numbers and so on.

Trust is a gift which is given to one person from another. The extent of a person's trust in another person shows how big the gift is.
Once a trust is broken , it is difficult for a person to go back to the level of trust he instilled in the other person, however humans are emotional fools and they tend to go back to the level of trust with a pinch of caution.

One should always cherish the gift of trust one receives from their friends and family. This is the first step towards maintaining the peace of mind of oneself and of their loved ones.

A baby starts walking holding the closest object to him , trusting the object. If that object is light in weight, which makes the baby fall, the baby will take a while to hold it again or he may choose not to hold it ever again , inorder to walk.

In the similar way, people hold on to people trusting them , that they would give them companionship and support whenever needed inorder to walk down the journey of life. If not, the entire life , atleast a part of it.
When those people , due to their lightness in loyalty, break their trust, people often leave them or become cautious of them.

Experience- The ultimate Scrub

Experience brings confidence .

There are days when you feel demotivated looking at people working so efficiently.
These days are the stepping stones to your successful days because these days will only push you further to work harder and learn more.
No one wants to fail and everybody wishes to be in good books if not explicitly, it would be  implicitly.

You should always remember if a patch is smooth today it is because of the continuous rubbing of the rugged parts.
Consider Success as the same patch in your life and experience as the scrub , continuously rubbing you.

The day you find that patch smooth , consider yourself well experienced and success shall follow.

Maturity

I came across a beautiful message. 

It is not a message written by me but i wish to share it with everyone. 

*What is maturity? - by Adi Shankara*

1. Maturity is *when you stop trying to change others, ...instead focus on changing yourself.*

2. Maturity is when you

*accept people as they are.*

3. Maturity is when you

*understand everyone is right in their own perspective.*

4. Maturity is when you  

*learn to "let go".*

5. Maturity is when you are

able to *drop "expectations" from a relationship and give for the sake of giving.*

6. Maturity is when you

*understand whatever you do, you do for your own peace.*

7. Maturity is when you 

*stop proving to the world, how intelligent you are.*

8. Maturity is when you 

*don't seek approval from others.*

9. Maturity is when you 

*stop comparing with others.*

10. Maturity is when you 

*are at peace with yourself.*

11. Maturity is when you 

*are able to differentiate between "need" and "want" and are able to let go of your wants.**& last but most meaningful !*

12. You gain Maturity when you 

*stop attaching "happiness" to material things !!*

The reason why your present is a 'Present'!

Each one of us faces insecurity. We might be insecure about our jobs or friendships/relationships. We always wish to have the perfect life , the perfect job ,the perfect set of friends and the perfect relationship.

 What is perfect? Definately what sounds best to us and matches us and our needs or should i say greed?

We do tend to believe that we live in a hypothetical world and if we have something which is perfect for us, our rational side of the brain tells us that it will definately come to an end! Then why not i end it myself early , earlier than it is meant to end so that i donot hurt myself because.... I want the perfect life. 

We all become rational as we grow up and learn how to protect ourselves. We protect ourselves so much that it becomes a habit and before anything wrong can happen to us ,we wear the shield inorder to protect ourselves.

When we were babies we didnot wear that shield and we braved the world fearlessly. We never worried about the toy that gave us so much of happiness and which brought a huge smile on our faces or made us spring up with joy , would one day go away. 

We never worried about the toy being snatched away from us. 

We enjoyed our present and didnot worry about our future. 

If today you have that toy in your hand, enjoy it ,you dont need to be rational and let it go just because you think that one day it will  have to leave you. Its Yours and you will decide whether it will stay or has to go. It shall never leave you until you leave it and i am sure you dont want to leave it.  Live your present and dont let your past mistakes haunt you or your future inhibitions hold you back. There is a reason why past is called past and the present is called 'present',  it is a gift from god to you. Enjoy and cherish your present and write your future with a smile and positive attitude. 

Do you have it all?

It is a very ironic thought that the wise tell you to believe , you have it all and go on the stage and set it on fire.

Do we really have it all to make that mark in the world? 

To build your conifdence, well the answer is definately , Yes! 

When you actually come face to face with the world , the answer might change . 

It is good to feel at the top of the world and feel that you have learnt all that you had to and achieved all that you had to and now nobody can beat you.

But remember the reason why you are at the top is because you beat someone in that. 

And just like you , the person before you had done that too. 

Never stop learning and never feel that you have achieved it all , there still might be something which you could create on your own and learn from yourself. 

Learning never had an end and it shall never do.

Never look up to your teacher and  say that now you dont need any more classes or any more learning because you have mastered it all. There is a reason that he is your teacher and you are a student. 

Your teacher will never say i have mastered it all and i dont need to practice it anymore and that is the difference between a teacher and a student. 

Teachers know that knowledge and learning is eternal. 

The tree named relationship.

Human biengs build and live relationships. They put more efforts in building a relationship than nurturing it.

Cutting the tree called relationship when the bark starts getting thicker is a self defence mechanism that they go through. 

They tend to forget they push away the people who care and love them the most. 

Relationships are a very integral part of a person's growth and peace of mind. Attaching to a certain person makes a person more aware about himself/herself. 

Just like meditation helps you reconnect with yourself and reconnect with your actions in the past , relationships help you know you and the reason for your actions.

Take a minute to remember every person in your life who has made a difference and made you who you are today. 

I bet you are related to them. Maybe through past actions you mite have cut the bark of the tree called relationship but  remember the roots are still there in the soil. 

If you give the tree enough warmth and water you can again grow it back to the height that it had attained earlier. 

It mite take sometime but dont let go of it because of your insecurity, inhibitions and defensive nature.

Life beyond your boundaries

A regular routine, same surroundings and same kind of people throughout your life will not teach you all that you should learn inorder to evolve and grow as a person.

It is important to come out of your cormfort zone and visit places of life where you would not normally go. Your parents or well wishers cannot take you . 

When you meet new people and live their life or live with them for a few days , you understand the beauty of different tastes and colours that god has made. 

We all are the same yet different in our own special ways. 

And how we mould our thinking and lives is in our hands. 

Pledge to Be different by experiencing Different and you will see different. 

Entry to exit

There is always a reason as to why people associate with you. You might feel that you love someone unconditionally and will do anything for them , make endless sacrifices when the time comes to sacrifice. We are 99% of the times wrong. It is true that when somebody helps us in need  or is just there for us even otherwise , as social animals, we do have emotions and we wish to give back the affection through our sacrifices yet we only consider it and not actually make the sacrifice.

There is a reason why you have friends , teachers , collegues. They all are related to your needsand they   satisfy them.

There is only one relation , that is the relation of blood which nobody questions yet there is a story to it as well. 

Your parents brought you to this world to extend their family and to continue their legacy. 

You come in this world alone yet when you leave this world you take so many associations and relations with you. You definately make an exit alone but you take feelings , emotions and if lucky souls  with you. 

Direct the Direction

I believe people are not borne leaders. Leaders are created by the people who have led them in life.

Even the leaders you look upto need mentors to direct them to the correct path.  We live in  a world of social beings , if one leads the other today , tomorrow the person led yesterday might lead someone else and the link keeps getting bigger.

We decide our own direction however we may choose to either walk the road already built or build our own roads. It depends on our risk taking capacity and the intensity of belief in ourselves.

I am a strong believer of the saying "you shall reach where you are destined to reach " . However, i also believe that it is your actions which create the destiny .Your actions and your luck play a major factor in your destination. Whatever you do to someone today shall eventually come back to you but it is in your luck which decides when it does whether good or bad.

The most an individual can do is have faith. Have faith in himself and the world around that whatever the circumstances may be however his karma will treat him he shall bear the consequences and swim through them whether good or bad.

A person should never stop walking even if it is dark and he is unaware of the surroundings and the path he is walking on because ultimately he mite reach somewhere , somewhere where it is less
darker and  he can plan his journey ahead. Also if he stops walking , the probability of attack increases. It is always easier to attack a static object than a moving one.

So direct your direction , keep moving forward however slow it is but keep walking forward.

Road from Importance to Indifference

The world is built on relationships. We build relationships everyday consciously or unconsciously. 

What is a relationship?

A relationship is a link. It mite be a link between you and an another person or it might be a relationship between you and a non-living object.

There are alot of feelings which emerge out of a relationship and the feeling or the emotion gives a meaning to the relationship. You start feeling the importance of the person/thing in your life and cannot imagine your life without it. You start getting used to it and eventually it becomes a part of your everyday life.

Another feeling which comes gradually is the feeling of taking someone/something for granted. This is a normal tendency with every living being to start taking things which are a part of their everyday routine for granted. 

When we wake up we take it for granted that we shall go to the washroom and freshen up/ brush your teeth. 

A dog, when meets a new person, takes his owner for granted and spends most of the time with the new person. 

A child , when he gets used to the world around him takes his mother for granted and feels as if he doesn't not need her protection anymore. 

We all take our relationships for granted. We understand their importance so much at a point of time that we donot want to let go off it however when few years pass by we take the same thing for granted that before we realize our indifference towards it, its gone. 

Value your relationships , value everybody's feelings because if you feel that you have them ,so do they..

Fading importance

Man is an emotional animal. Emotions lead to feelings and feelings lead to relationships.

When we like somebody we tend to be attracted towards them and when the attraction is mutual , we tend to enter into relationships. 

Relationships give us an edge of others who are merely attracted towards the person we like. 

Relationships give us a sense of superiority in their lives and hence more importance. 

As man is a social animal and feelings build up everytime he sees a new person whether good or bad , our priorities tend to change. 

We want to feel important in every relations's lives and that is the reason why feelings such as frustration and dejection build up. Therfore leading to breaking of bonds and relationships. 

Yet a person who is once in a relationship  with someone wishes to ,still feel the same level of importance in their lives and takes a long time , sometimes more than expected to move on. 

Trust yourself

It is true that trust doesnt come easy. For some of us , it does. We suddenly become too happy about a new relationship and start trusting even before we completely know that person.

World is full of people with selfish motives. Some people are hardwired like that and some become like that due to their recent experiences. One should learn from their mistakes and not be foolish and trust people blindly too soon.

Everytime someone betrays your trust you feel a part of you has withered away.

One should make oneself believe that no matter who and how many people betray your trust , it is always a learning experience for you to not make the same mistake again.

If one trusts oneself ,he/she doesnot need anybody else. One person is enough and that is you ,yourself.

Hidden Reality

Many if us judge the book by its cover.
what i mean by this is we judge alot of people in our own heads within a span of 1 minute ,the first time we meet them . We gradually get to know them better. Sometimes we like them, sometimes we feel we love them and sometimes we happen to detest them.
This is normal human psychology and tendency.

What is important is, out of the people we meet, judge , like or love , how many stick around and stand by the opinion we had created about them at first in our own heads. How many of them change our opinions about them. True, some surprise us with heir positivity and some surprise us with their change in nature by and by the time they stay and interact with you.

Its true that things take time and so do people.
They take time to unveil what is inside and what they are made of. Some people show their true colors soon and some take time. Trust and friendship and two very deep and important words. Their roots go deep , deeper than you can imagine. These roots take time to get stronger.

Taking inspiration from nature, even the bark takes time to get stronger and thicker. So does a relationship , trust and friendship.

It is true that man is a selfish animal and does not give away things unconditionally. If today somebody is favoring you , remember tomorrow he/she will definately claim it back. Sometimes it will be clearly visible and sometimes it wont be.

Train your eyes to see the hidden reality or else you shall be buried deep inside the soil in thise selfish world.

The GlamFam.

Glamour, Lights ,Camera, Fame and Respect. Things which entangle a  person in its web. A good start does not necessarily mean a good end. A good end does not mean a smooth journey.
Frustration , struggle and restlessness is everywhere but  here you wear a smile and hide all your fears.
The turmoil inside your heart , the fear you feel in your stomach while walking the ramp for the first time, the unbearable shriek of joy you feel inside ,an experience which makes you go deeper inside this web.
Some places makes us forget our paths. Some paths lead us to an unexpected end.
They say  thinking makes you loose the charm here but your personal choices determine what you want to believe and how you wish to transform your end.
A good start does not necessarily mean a good end
and a good end does not mean a smooth journey.

Criticism easy given than taken

It is easy to criticize others than to take the criticism.

People who criticize others and are unable to take it themselves are termed as cowards. This rash opinion is a one with proof.
One who speaks behind someone's back actually speaks volumes about oneself. One who destroys one's picture by ink or by any other act actually destroys his/her own self.
It is the negativity inside a person which leads to the outflow of negativity.

It is appreciated and just to speak one's heart out, if not now , then later when you have the courage to do so. The day will eventually come. Until then to stay positive and to gather up the courage keep it inside and let it flow out to the concerned person when the time comes.
And you shall know when the time is right.

Acceptance and Appreciation

We look for acceptance all the time. Be it at home , peers or work place.
We seek respect and we seek love.
Its the basic necessity of every human being .        
We should surround ourselves with people who give us that appreciation because sometimes we need that appreciation to realize our own worth and our own potential.
If till now you were with people who pulled the soul out of you because you did not feel content and satisfied with what you have achieved you are on the wrong track.
You need to change your gear and move towards the right one.
It's painful to part away from the people you have walked down the path which took so long but it is always better late than never.
You mite not be sure that you will find the right set of people down the other path  or you will end up at the perfect destination but what you can be sure is that you are not walking down the wrong path anymore. This is your time to make a decision and seek till you find.
Life is short , make the most out of it.
Appreciate yourself and do not settle for anyone who doesn't know your worth and doesn't respect it.

Surround yourself with people who help you grow and not make you question yourself if you can ? Hell you can! And you will!
Achieve what seems impossible because nothing really is.

Give the time some time.

Sometimes we feel we dont know what we want. we are mostly in a  confused state when the decision is to be made on a particular subject.
The reasons for confusions can be plenty mostly , the confusion arises due to the turmoil between your heart and brain.
you heart says something but your brain says something
you might be happy doing something but you also know that you will not draw the same amount of happiness that you draw presently even though your satisfaction level would  be optimum if you choose the former.
when a situation like this arises all we should do is wait for the time to pass and have faith in ourselves and in life.
what is bound to happen will eventually happen , it is just  a matter of time. Life gives you opportunities to test yourself and explore yourself till the time you get the answer .
you mite spend your lifetime searching for a particular answer but the day you are on your deathbed you shall get your answer when you  scan your eyes through the regrets and your happiness,
the day shall come when you will know what you want and what  you are meant for .


Give the time some time.

Reason for which you started walking

We do a lot of things in life , we try a lot of things and we want to achieve a lot of things in life.
For that we start walking on a road. The road which leads to your goal.
However every road has many small lanes attached to them which look very attractive, full of flowers but which divert you from the road that you initially started to walk upon.
Never forget the reason why you started to walk on a road because when you miss the bus which is at the end of the road you regret it forever and it makes you feel under confident.
However better late than never
Learn to grow above your regrets and failures and start walking on a different road and this time don't let yourself get attracted to other lanes forgetting the reason why you initially started.
Catch the bus this time and Go further and further. Catch the plane and Fly into the sky.

One spaceship , one land where you belong

When you are over ambitious , you will feel you have not done enough and yes that will make you sad. There is nothing wrong in being over ambitious. Being ambitious is good. You are your own competititor and your own critic , what more do you want for your growth?
Satisfaction.
That's what you get when you have achieved what you had to achieve.
You might meet a lot of people on your journey who will not stay with you until the end of your journey.
Those who aim for the stars don't care about the trees.
If they too aimed for the same land where you aimed for your spaceships would eventually collide.

One, Just one is enough

Believe it or not we all need that one person who understands us through and through , supports us and caresses us.
We might be egoistic, too ambitious and might have plenty of friends whom we cannot trust but it enjoy their company.
However if we have that one person , Just one person is enough , who completes us and makes us happy even when we don't need him/her , be it your boyfriend, girlfriend or your best friend who stays with you all the time and never leaves your hand even when the entire world is busy doing their own work.
We do not understand their importance when we are happy but can never let go of them when we are sad and need that one companion who makes everything alright, who makes you feel you are not alone.

16 To 22

Its amazing how We in a span of few years of our college and high school meet Lots of people and make truck loads of friends or if I may say acquaintances.

These are our years to experiment and discover ourselves and in that duration of experimenting and discovering , we meet people, Work with them, Party with them, Chill with them. We find us in every experience we go through and that's the reason why we make new friends. Each person we meet gives  us one more opportunity to know ourselves, what we like, what we might be missing till now and what we shall miss later in life.

Sometimes its painful and sometimes we just don't care when people walk into and out of our lives.
We mite look at them in a crowd and turn away our faces or go up to them and hug like we have missed them forever.

Its amazing how our feelings change , Our priorities start to differ as we grow old

Its true the people we meet between the age of 16 to 22 are temporary , a few exceptions might be there of course but Most of them won't last forever. Not even for more than a year or simply a year.

That doesn't mean we stop socializing or stop partying.
We develop ourselves with every person we meet and spend time with even if its a few minutes. We should  accept that in these years the friendships might just be temporary ,don't bring them to close to your heart
And if they are that close to your heart, never let them go or wait for them to come back so that you know if what you think is actually true.

Map your life

Some of us have our goals clear
Some of us don't know where to go with that fear
Stay in the zone walk that path
It mite take you there, where you belong.

Most of us don't have a goal in mind we haven't decided a clear destination in mind.
The key to find your destination is to work hard in whatever opportunity comes your way. Give you 100% wherever you feel it relates to your interest and explore yourself in that area.
You will discover a lot of new things , new deep seated skills which you were unaware of and gradually you will define your own path to your destination.

When life does not show you a clear path it is time for you to know that you should build your own paths.
Building your own paths can be risky because you never know where the road mite just break but it is a beautiful way to learn and be more successful than anyone in your own eyes.

When you see yourself as a successful person in your own eyes, nobody can take that success from you.

Define your own path, Define your own
Glory when life doesn't show you where you have to go.

Plastics of happiness

How do we differentiate between two people who are almost equally good at athletics?
How do we differentiate between people who are almost equally good at singing or dancing?

Its through the trophies and certificates they have received. Isn't it? Or how Heavy their CV is.

We live in a world which is full of people who judge you by the number of trophies or certificates you have won.
In your student life a major incentive for you to participate in various clubs and activities is the piece of glossy paper with your name printed on it. We run after the materialistic gains in life rather than focusing on the knowledge and experience we get out of it.

We decorate our houses with the trophies that we can flaunt around when our friends and relatives come home.
Some of us excel in each field that we participate in however some of us do not due to lack of focus or luck at times.
But that should not stop us from trying.
Trophies is just sought of a morale boost that you have achieved something and pushes you to achieve more in life.

Its amazing how plastic can do wonders in our lives and teach us ,motivate us to do better.

Turning Tables

Positions, responsibilities ,Recognitions a kind of ego boost that all of us need an get at some point of our lives.

We should never forget our roots from where we had started our journey once we feel we have reached the Zenith.
We never do. It is a myth that we are at the top. It might take you uncountable efforts to reach where you feel you are at the top but it takes a fraction of that uncountable efforts to come down  lower to the place from where you had initially started.

We all should remember to stay grounded and remember our roots. We should always help others not forgetting  our own priorities of course because one day while serving others and fulfilling their priorities we might end up killing our own. People will move on after satisfying their needs or their Greed's but you will remain there itself.  It is Important to be humble and generous but it is equally important to be emotionally intelligent .

You might be at the delivering end of the table today but remember even when you are at the highest rung of your organization  ,there are people waiting for you to commit that one mistake which would turn the table around.
Be efficient and regular with your duties . staying regular with your duties and keeping your eyes and ears open is the best way to retain your position.
There might be people hierarchically above and below you , you should never take them as above or below you But equal. When in your mind you give each other an equal status you will end up behaving in same  manner as well by giving every person their due respect. Today you might be the person ordering around because you are regular and well versed with your duties but tomorrow you might not.

Three mirrors

I see life as three mirrors.

The first mirror is how others see  you.
The second mirror is how you see yourself
And  The third mirror is how you feel others see you.

We live in a planet full of humans. Whatever we see around today be it a  restaurant , a gadget , places of worship or even  a belief or a tradition ,they are all built by us, humans.
you might  feel you are a nobody in school/ college/ office you are still in  relation to someone.
you are still a brother/sister/mother/father/friend. Therefore never feel that you are inferior to anyone because  the importance that you hold on this planet cannot be held by anyone else. you are a different personality , if you die tomorrow , you will never die alone.

You should feel your own importance inorder to make your importance felt in life. You might be shy or a very outgoing person but that is what you perceive of yourself. And what you think about youself matters more than what other think about you .
If you want to be happy , you are responsible for making yourself happy .
How do we differentiate between a happy and a sad person?
A smiling face?
Arent we judging them now? judging whether that person is a happy one or sad one?
Exactly , this is what brings me to the third mirror.
You might feel that you are not a very judgmental person then why is the other person judging you ? the truth is that the human psychology works that way . We are judging everything 24*7
99% of the population is usually worried about what others think about them .It is their job to judge you, to notice things that is why god has given us sense organs -nose,ears,eyes,tongue and skin so that we perceive things and judge what is best for us.

The only mirror which should be of utmost importance for you is the second one. HOW YOU SEE YOURSELF.
You want to be a happy person?
Smile. Look into the mirror and smile. that will do the magic.
Laugh more often

you want to be overloaded with work even though you have none
tell you self OH MY GOD i have so much of work , i have to submit so many assignments or have too many chores to do. you psyche will automatically make you feel you are over stressed and you will end up looking stressed.

Its all in your mind and what your brain is a workshop , a workshop which can make the deadliest imaginations or put you to ease,

I believe everything that we do happen twice , first in our minds when we think that we are going to do it and second when we actually implement it.

Architects of future curtain their pasts

Your past is a good place to visit once in a while but not  a good place to stay .

We all have our dark secrets, our pasts , be it good memories or memories which make us sad. 

memories which illuminate us or memories which dampen our feelings.Some people become a very integral part of our lives but it is not necessary that they will continue with them forever. People grow and people move on , life is dynamic and that is the best part about it. 

We meet so many people in life and they can either be a blessing or a lesson. You may  end up going to bed thinking about someone but remember there is someone out there who goes to bed everyday thinking about you too. So be better human beings and be a blessing for others rather than being a lesson. 

Many a times we run from our past for varied reasons.If we have an opportunity to  meet someone from  our past we rather try to escape it than face it. Maybe we don't want to let the other person know how we feel about about them or we are too worried about them judging us about how we are now in comparison to how we were in the past. 

We should understand the power of time.Time changes everyone . time is ticking for everyone not just you but for them as well. if you have changed over a period of time , so have they .

We need to set ourselves free from the claws of our past and live in the present so that we can be the architects of our future.

Take me to a new world

We laugh , we cry , we live with people all around us. They constantly change , constantly rotate. We share our life with the closest of all , who have given us birth , who have made us who we are today.

It is true that our heart is in a constant toil , our perceptions, beliefs , our likes and dislikes change over time.We feel no one but us, ourselves can understand what we like. What we are going through because the closest person to you is you .

At time we tend to prefer to go to  a place where no one knows us , so that we are comfortable with ourself, We are at peace with ourselves because the only person who knows you there is you. When you dont wish to tell the world what you are going through you wish to escape to   a different world, a whole new world where you can discover yourself, where you can introduce yourself and build your whole new image,paint your life in a new way with the new people.

Life makes us meet a numerous variety of people and gives us a share of every person we meet. Their habits, their beliefs , with time they tend to become yours as well. You start looking at life from a whole new angle

Beware, the whole new world that you may take yourself to, where no one knows you and no one commands you , you are the master of the whole new painting that you are about to paint sometimes starts looking pretentious . However when you come our of that world , after a point of time, you start missing that world , where you could do anything you want to  because nobody knows you. Gradually with time you start making new emotional connections but till the time you to that , you life takes you to whole new world.

Dream.Believe.Achieve

Life takes you through twists and turns. Highs and lows as I have mentioned in my earlier articles as well.
People may not accept what you like, people might not accept you for who you are.
Sometimes your parents , who matter to you the most don't accept your decisions  but that should not be a hindrance for you to move further.
It is their duty to inform you, guide you to the right path.
It mite irritate you when they are unable o understand and respect your point of view but that doesnt mean that you stop loving forward.

You can never move forward if you stand still at one place. If you don't stop walking, you will continue to remain at one place.
Its time that you take that step forward, if it is the right path, time will surely tell you that.
It is true time heals everything, time makes everything clear.
You are punished for your deeds and rewarded for the same.

You need to believe in yourself and believe that whatever you are doing is the right choice because you are happy about it and do not regret it.
Your happiness is what should matter to you. A happy person always keeps everyone around them happy. And a joyous person is always welcome everywhere .
Believe in yourself , in your decisions and move forward with grace and confidence.

Your grace and  confidence will define you. And your definition cannot be anybody else's definition.
Negativity around you mite discourage you from the step that you wish to take but that doesn't mean that you let it succeed. Yes, sometimes you need to change your path , change your decisions according to situations but don't take it on your ego, as your defeat because one day, you will achieve your dream, no matter what.

Reflection

You know you have the potential in you to do a particular thing but the world seems to be on one side and you on the other.

Your mentor/parent/best friend/the person whom you feel the closest to, the person whom you feel knows you inside out mite tell you that you are incapable of doing what you are heading towards. They mite tell you to give up, they mite tell you that you would fail however much you try or try to give your best. In cases like these, remember, what others tell you is a reflection of what they feel about themselves.

It is normal human psychology that when you share your plan of action with someone specially someone with whom you are closest to or meet or talk to everyday. The person whoever it is, will put himself/herself in your shoes and imagine taking up that plan of action. They mite not be confident about doing something but you are not one of them. You are unique, you are different. God has made everyone a different individual , given a separate identity for the sole purpose of the different kind of potential that each and every person imbibes in themselves.

It is hard to stay motivated and not get disheartened by someone who mite not believe in you but you need to believe in yourself and not let what others think of you affect you because you are not a reflection of others.
When you see your reflection in the mirror, it is solely what you think of yourself, what you perceive of yourself not what others perceive of you. Your mind is different from theirs, your brain works in a different manner unlike theirs.
What you do reflects you and only you as an individual.

Existence

Man is a social animal and he meets plenty of people in his life span.
People come with experiences , every person you meet is an experience in himself.
When you meet someone, he/she lets you know about their personality, their wishes and their experiences and gradually you start relating to their lives. That is how they influence your life and give you an experience.
Today what we are  or how we are, how our personality reflects on others and how we come across is partially influenced by the people we meet in our life span.

God has created every individual a selfish one. This is not a negative way of thinking but  a very practical approach.
for example, a foetus in a mother's womb , even before the baby is born , the baby takes nutrients from it's mother's body inorder to come into existence .
similarly, people have their own selfish reasons be it for a positive impact or negative.
The word selfish ,speaks for itself . "SELF" the initial part of the word reflects the meaning.


If today , your fellow mate does  something which makes you feel that he/she has betrayed you by his/her own selfish reasons , you should not feel bad. This is how life has originated and shall continue until it comes to an end.
Everybody wants to be successful / continue with their existence and in order to continue with their existence they are compelled to wear a mask which hides their selfish motives .
We should accept it as a part of life and not let it affect us by making us sad or leave us in an over thinking zone.

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Power of belief.

The power of  belief is one  of the biggest powers in the world.
The day you start believing in yourself is the day you set your foot on the first step of the ladder of success. The smallest of the decisions you make , you should believe in it. Whether it is a wrong  one or the right one, let time decide that.
You should be able to answer yourself, and give yourself an explanation , convincing as to why you took a decision . The reason for you to walk on a path which was different from the one that your friends took

There is no harm in being different , nor is there any harm in doing the same thing that your fee low mates are doing but the reason for you to choose how you wish to be is important.


" I believe in myself and i know i can do it. " This is the attitude you should keep in your life and walk on the road you wish to walk on . Live your life the way you want to live it. Learn things the way you want to learn it .
Do things your way and make them special.

Its your life and no one can live it for you.

Stories written and read.

You dont need to be great to start  but you need to start it, to be great.

Its important to make new beginnings inorder to reach somewhere in life, inorder to achieve a goal.
However slow we walk, we should keep walking and never stop, unless we know that now it is the  time to end our journey.

Once you make a new beginning and you go deep into the new story that you write, it is very hard to end that story which you are writing. However much you love the story that you are creating and have created ao far, it takes courage to end it. Make sure you end it on a happy note and even if it is mot possible to end it on a happy note, the story will always be an experience which you will cherish and re read your entire life.

It is not only how your story begins or your story ends, its the moments that you have captured in your entire story also.
You will write plenty of stories and when you 'll combine those stories, it will be your book, which is your life.

 

We met for a reason, either you are a blessing or a lesson.

People come and People go, a very cliched  line that we have come across multiple number of times during our life span.

Sooner or later we realize that the people who are associated with us in are in our lives for a particular reason , during a particular phase.

Our parents are in our lives because they have given birth to us.

Our colleagues back at our work place are with us because we work together.

Friends in school , friends in college,. 

We differentiate friends as , college friends, school friends , WHY? the reason is because they meet us during that particular phase of life. 

Some our just Hi-bye friends as we  call them and some are our best buddies. 

There is always a reason for someone to come and talk to an another person. The reasons can be loneliness, adventure , motive or an agenda . When the motive is cleared, they gradually part away. 

Avery simple example being the relationship of a student and a teacher. 

A student approaches a teacher to clear his doubts before the examinations and when his doubts are cleared the students' priorities change to having fun with their friends, 

Therefore there is always a reason for an association 

And people like this, keep coming and leaving your life and life moves on with the experiences that you have with the people you meet . 

Practicality and conviction

Beautiful days do come to an end
Bad days do come to an end.
Every beginning does have an end.
Even the stars have to one day bend.
A new born baby, one day turns into an old person and his life does come to an end.

All of us have our high points and low points in life.
We live to create something out of ourselves and that is the reason why we indulge ourselves in different opportunities.

Some opportunities turn into lifetime experiences , we either cherish them or regret them.
Many a times we regret the choices we make in the journey of life but these regrets should not stop us from walking forward. Walking in a different direction might be a good option but keep walking.
Life is not about remaining static at one place but being a  dynamic individual.
You create your own identity, you create your own aura.
It is not how you start things, it is how you end things.
Sometimes in life, we begin our journeys in the most enthusiastic fashion but ultinateky we burn out and end our journeys like any other mediocre individual.
Introspection at this time is very crucial , self realisation about what you are capable of and knowing how you will achieve it is important.

Many a times we get trapped in our own aura, in our own highs in life. We forget where we are and we neglect what is important or can be important.
Staying grounded and thinking practical that there would be one day when the charisma of this award that you are holding in your hand will come to an end.
People will forget about it one day, if you are not consistent in your work.
The person who stays grounded, understands the reality and practicality of life goes a long way.

Two puzzle pieces

Find a guy who will pick every piece of your broken heart and shattered heart and put it  back together again keeping once piece to himself and replacing it with a piece of his.

This is what has happened to me. I found that piece which perfectly completed my heart.

Sometimes in life , we wish for something , we pray for something endlessly and over the period of time we tend to give up.
we feel we cannot achieve what we want to , we cannot have want we want to. We are not worthy enough of what we want  and what we feel we deserve.
Something similar happened to  me 4 months back .
I had completely given up.
It is true some people walk into your lives when you least expect them to . I have learnt a lesson  from my own story which is when god knows you are ready for the responsibility of commitment . He'll reveal the right person under right circumstances for you , so dont waste your time searching and wishing , grow and be ready and you will see god will give you  a love story  far better than you could ever dream of.

I am blessed to have got that gift of my love story .  I haven't got the feelings from him that i needed , I have got feelings from him that i never thought i needed,

So never give up on your feelings because when the time is right , the right person will come and knock on your door of happiness and love you like never before.

WALK UNTIL THE JOURNEY ENDS

Many a times i ask myself why do i work so much ?
Why do i live a life of toil?
The answer  is because I want to be successful.

What am I most passionate about?
What do I really want?

All of us want to be someone, attain a certain height. Achieve the impossible and be someone who everybody looks up to.
None of us want to lead a mediocre life. Somewhere down our heart all of us want to be known. We want to be popular.
But HOW?
This should be the valid question in all our minds.

We should be popular, we should be known , very well known but for the right reasons, for the correct reasons. We know we have it in us , we just need a platform to discover it.
Many a times we enter a platform where we  discover how passionate we are about our work but the next question to ourselves should be , IS IT THE RIGHT PLACE? IS IT THE RIGHT PLATFORM?
If your answer is still  not a yes , or it is a maybe , it is surely not the right platform . When it is right you will  know it, when the time is right you will know it,

We should be aware of our potential and when we know our potential we should know our worth.
It is not a good choice to stay at a place for a really long time , because sometimes a platform might help you grow but the same platform might destroy you as well.
Life is a gamble , it gives you with options which will take you to a high and take you the the lowest possible rung.
You have to be cautious while travelling down the line of life maintaining the balance.

Whichever road you choose to travel upon , you should travel on it  till the end .
There is no end on those roads , it is up to you when you decide it is the end of the road,
when it starts getting darker after a journey full of light is when you know , the end is now near and you need to start cutting ties so that you don't become so emotionally attached to that journey that tomorrow when you are asked to choose an another road for your own benefit you stumble upon a stone and fall down and hurt yourself.

It is true we want to be known , we don't want a mediocre life .


You need to  make smart choices about how you want to be known and which road you want to travel on , determine your own journey and exit when you know it is the right time  to exit.

PRIORITIES

Many a times we want something so badly.
We have to console our heart time and again about why we  are doing what we are doing.

Life offers you many endless opportunities , endless moments which you would want to cherish but at the end you need to make the right choices.
Are you making the right choice should be your question to yourself.
Life feels harsh when you have to choose something that you don't really want over something you really wanted and had planned for it.
The last minute change of plans make your heart ache.
We are unable to see the positiveness hidden in the situation and the day we see it, is the day we thank our stars.
Everything happens for a reason. A good reason . We all should accept it. We should stay optimistic and set our priorities right. 

We might have two priorities set at the same level but which one weighs more in the current situation is what we should understand and implement.

We find happiness in success and so do we find happiness in love.
When you get a mixture of above , that is when you can officially consider yourself to be lucky.

Love gives your cormfort and relaxes you within. Finding your true love does not mean you stop moving towards your goal of success. Everything happens for a reason , if you have found your true love today and did not find him yesterday, there is a reason attached to it as well.Love is said to be true when both understand eachother's priorities pertaining to the current situation. There are times when you dissapoint eachother but in the long run these disappointments turn into something positive which just brings you even more closer. That is when you thank your stars again.

Love and work the two priorities resting on the same level for many , its upto you and your partner to choose when it is the right time to keep it above the other and understand eachother.

The Big fish

I stand alone looking at the surge of  happiness and excitement all around.
I stand alone looking at the dejection on those faces.
The link to both being the same.
I belong to a place which is full of emotions.
Full of souls attracting and repelling eachother bound together in one place over a series of days.
Morning till midnight ,going through a series of emotions , loving and hating eachother at the same time. 

They live in a bubble.
They dream and they really dream big.
I ask myself if i am one of them.
If i have the same aspirations and dreams.
If i belong to this place and if i am getting absorbed in the same dream.
Sometimes the answer to it is a positive one and sometimes i feel i am still standing on the edge yet about to fall.
I experience what they have experienced
I feel what they feel.
They call it life.
I call it a part of life.
Yes there is a difference and it might be the thinking that makes all the difference.
I feel lost sometimes, lost in my own thoughts when i walk through that path.
Souls around me .
All are positive ones.
I express myself , i feel scared yet i keep walking .
I run and I take shelter sometimes worried if that shelter is the safe one.
I belong to a place where people trust eachother in a matter of seconds.
Express themselves thinking they are not being judged.
The reason to this place, nobody knows , the final destination of this place , nobody knows.
They just close their eyes, live it and experience it without giving it much thought.
This place gives them solace , calms them , brings them joy and happiness , makes them fall in love with this big fish.
How big a fish this place is , nobody knows.
People come here to discover this place and dispatch thinking they have discovered it.

Destiny

Sometimes you know that this is it.
Sometimes you know what it is.
The right opportunity , the right time awaits you.
Sometimes you know that this is what it is.
You make mistakes
You keep walking in the dark even when it gets darker , you feel it is still bright.
You close your eyes believing it to be a dream ignoring the real picture.
You make choices , you dream big forgetting what the practicality is.
You want to live your life  avoiding it to see it otherwise.
Your heart cries , the pain resides but you tell yourself , no, this is the right choice.
Look back and see where you have come from.
If this is the place where you really belong.
If this is the right choice that you are tredding upon.
Look back and introspect , if this is the place you wanted to be all along.
It might be the right choice , it might be the right place .
The right destination still awaits.

Problems or Opportunities? Think Again.

Another day , another night and we keep delaying things until last minute , until the next day.
We are the creator of our own problems and destroyer of our own problems.
We feel we have the biggest possible stress , biggest possible problems in the entire world but if we look from someone else's eyes , if we look at the bigger picture , it is not so.
Everyone has problems in their lives or we should call them experiences which  are over hyped and given the name 'PROBLEMS'
If there is a beginning to something, there is an end too.
If you feel there is a beginning to your problem, trust me , there is an end too and the roots to its end is to its beginning.

Sometimes what you call problems are actually opportunities

Opportunities for you to grow
Opportunities for you to learn
Opportunities for you to become a better person

ILLUSIONS OF BEING INDISPENSABLE.

Life is like a roller coaster ride for each one of us.
We all go through low times, when we are just a face in the crowd . A nobody in simple language,
We work on ourselves , take inspiration from others and gradually come up to a level from a mediocre status to a higher one where people start acknowledging us and we are not just a face in the crowd anymore.

During our journey to the top most rung , we fool ourselves by living in the make believe world created by our own mind.
We feel this is the highest that we have and can achieve and our behavior begins to change.
In our make believe world we tend to forget the times when we were someone who nobody knew and how desperately tried to make ourselves visible.
We tend to visualize the transition in our behavior which transforms from  a humble one to an imperious one.

We  achieve so much during our journey that we tend to believe that the ride that we are sitting in today will never complete without us.
Roller coaster like a cycle , if it goes up , it comes down as well, with the same velocity and you dont even get to know when the fun  ends.But never a rollercoaster stops in the middle, there are cases of accidents , people falling down from the roller coaster rides in amusement parks but that does not stop the roller coaster ride  because till the time the person running the ride knows about it the ride is already completed for others,

Time waits for no one.
when you are not working , others are,
You may be the best today but someone out there is trying to be better,
Never think you are indispensable because even TIME doesnt care if you are still there.


MAKE YOUR DAYS LONGER BY  WORKING  OUT SOMETHING NEW NOT SLEEP PLENTY THINKING THE WORLD IS YOURS AND SHALL NOT FUNCTION WHEN YOU ARE NOT THERE,

BUILDINGS ARE MADE UP OF BRICKS,  BRICKS ARE INDISPENSABLE FOR THE BUILDING BUT IF ONE BRICK FALLS DOWN , THE BUILDING STILL REMAINS STANDING

The breeze in your life

Emotions come from feelings , Feelings come from our heart.
Every human being is blessed with  a heart , a heart that beats for love , a heart that beats for acceptance.
We meet uncountable people in our lives from the day we step into this world starting with our mother, who gives us birth and the doctor who helps in delivery.
Do we remember the doctor?
All of us know the answer to that question.
Do we worry each day how that doctor  must be doing now, where would he/she be at this hour of the day, whether he is successful or not in his field?
The answer is no to all these questions.
There is a reason for me to write these questions, the reason is that none of us care about that very person , is why we donot let our minds pay attention to that person's life.
It is you who lets people enter your life , it is you who lets people affect you, you allow your heart to have feelings for a person , turn those feelings into emotions.
We are the master of our lives, if we donot want to talk to a particular person, The cell phone is in our hands and it is us who decide whether we want to accept their call or not.
Similarly ,  it is us who let people enter our heart.

BELIEF,NOT A MATTER OF CHOICE BUT OF CONVICTION.

 


BELIEF - A small word , just 6 words long. It is a word full of power.
Power that all of us want , all of us want to have the power to rule on everybody's life.
We want the power to run an organisation , everybody strives for a better post at their work places , in their institutions.
The word power is nothing when belief does not support it.
Inorder to attain power, the belief in oneself is the most essentail componet to achieve success throughout the journey.
Inorder to reach a destination you need to first DREAM it .
When you dream it, you need to believe in your dreams inorder to achieve it.
Belief turns your way of looking at things. It changes your preceptions.
At the end it is all a game of perceptions.
IF you perceive something, your mind starts believing it , and when you believe in something you actions are controlled by your belief in your mind.
Believe in yourself

Believe in your dreams inorder to achieve them.
Knowledge is always not enough to reach where you aspire to reach , the right attitude and BELIEF are the essential ingredients.