Learn To Say Yes

Never hold on to your sorrow
For you donot know what lies before you tomorrow

A beautiful thought which crossed my mind today while i sat in my comforter looking out of the window on the pouring rain.
It is a beautiful feeling when you have been through struggles, been independent and appreciate the little things which life challenges you with. You know what matters to you the most and what doesn't. You know what relationships you need to invest on and which ones are just to be enjoyed in the moment and forgotten.

The people who have come into and gone from your life. The experiences which you want to capture and keep with you forever to remind you of how beautiful your life has become after they came into your life.
Life gives you opportunities to be with yourself and understand yourself better. Take those chances and live them. You never know what you end up discovering about yourself.
You will outgrow the materialistic pleasures of life and learn to let go of the baggage of the past. You shall be free and enjoy and would be ready to take every opportunity which comes your way.
Learn to say Yes and start fighting if it's tough or enjoying if it is your thing. You will never know if it is what you are cut out for unless you say a Yes.

Several ways of going down but only one way up

There are several ways to go down but only one way to go up.

Inspired by the Fuji mountain where people wear shoes made of straw as any other shoes which they would wear would get ruined due to the volcanic activity and soot which comes out.
Fuji mountain has only one way of going up and several ways of going down.
This inspired me to write about a very important lesson in life.
Many a times, we do things and delve into activities which are negative. Although we know the circumstances that it might have, on our lives or others' lives we still practice them.
This is due to factors such as greed and jealousy.
We pull others downhill thinking we shall climb few stairs up by doing so. We don't realize when we pull other people down, their weight brings us a few steps down as well.

Think of it, in one way, whenever we pull something, we do have an opposite reaction and we tend to fall backwards. Similarly, when we pull someone down, their weight of goodness and innocence brings us down as well.

The only way up is when we don't bother about what others are doing and we focus on ourselves as individuals competing with whom we were yesterday.
We should think of way of improving ourselves today with respect to who we were yesterday.
That is when, we will actually move up the ladder and we wouldn't require delving any kind of negative activities. It is highly important to know your competition and learn from your mistakes. It is highly important to assess where you are going and how you are doing by understanding why you are not doing well as compared to your fellow competitors. But, it is also important to appreciate your competitors because the lessons which you will learn about how to go up and reach the apex will also come from your competitors.
It is normal human psychology, a person learns more from what interests him. If you appreciate and take interest in your competitors , you will definately learn and grasp more.

The First in Last Out Principle

It is normal human tendency to get attached to new people as we progress in our lives.
It also a normal tendency to become more cautious about how much we share with people and to what extent we share our thoughts with people whom we meet as we grow up.
Age group of 18- 23 is the age when we meet the most number of temporary people in our lives. We are in our experimental mode and like to make new friends, like and be liked for who we are and what we do.
We want recognition and fame, we want to be 'popular' in our own domains.
As we grow older we meet more new people, but the people who have stuck around with us for more than 3 years on an average, we always count on them and never leave their side.
People make mistakes and even our friends who have been with us for a long time, they make mistakes which we don't want to forgive them for but since we have been together and stuck with eachother through our thick and thin , the mistakes seem very small in size and it is easy to overlook them.

Life follows the rule of first in , last out and not first in , first out. We should never forget the people who come into our lives first (during our initial years of life, when we actually start understanding friendship) are the last ones to leave our side.

Silence | Sword or a Band-aid

Silence is the best carrier of all emotions. Silence can be a sword or a band-aid in different situations.
Sometimes it covers ups the wounds that are open and sometimes it cuts through you leaving you open. Open to the feeling of pain and you feeling lost.

The reason why silence is still preferred by all is because it shall never offend anyone.

It may sometimes even act as catalyst for you to realize what you desire as it opens up a door into your soul which only you know is open.

It is true, unsaid words are sometimes better than some words said wrong but sometimes when the words remain unsaid , you shall remain lost in your own world hoping for the words to be communicated and they shall remain un-communicated.

Pearls of wisdom - some in everyone

Positivity breeds happiness

Many a times when we are positive and happy , we unknowingly leave impressions which give others a way of viewing life in a more positive way.
Everybody goes through the negative fluctuations in life, when the slightest of disconnect with their happiness gives birth to pessimism.
Whenever you come across a person who needs some kind of push inorder to feel cormfortable about what he/she is doing, speak up.
Speak your heart and speak how you would tackle the problem if you were the one facing the problem.
Helping others by even a single line of positivity helps them overcome their obstacles. Its miraculous how you can help someone by just one line of optimism and they come back and thank you later.
Even if tomorrow, that person doesnot come back to you and thank you for your optimism, god shall treat you one day with what you have done for him/her.
Each person on this planet has the potential and the power to affect someone's life and make their life count by giving away pearls of wisdom.
Its amazing how a 20 year old can also change the way of thinking of a 50 year old adult or a baby's smile can bring exuberance in an adult's life.
Every person has the pearls of wisdom which they gain through their experiences in life.

Internal strength

Bring me to life , bring me the eternal happiness.
I have gone through experiences which have taught me long sightedness.
I was young and i was gullible
I made mistakes which i myself was unaware of ,
My loved ones kept me on the right path ,
Bringing joy and immense love to my golden years
No, i am not old , i am still very young
There is time for me to paint my own life very bright.
Some left , some stayed and those who stayed fortunately would love me till the end.
Yes, Bad times are followed by good times .
Some are there to explain the beauty of good days and some to test my strengths.
Beauty, elegance, faith and far sightedness these things shall remain with me forever till the time i remain sane. 

Challenges-Transformation into confident individuals

We all go through multiple obstacles everyday.
Each one of us have our own battles to fight.
We crib about what is not right in our lives and we envy others for the success they have achieved in their lives.

We should understand , the more successful a person is , the more hardships  that person has undergone and shall continue to undergo.
Successful people don't question why they are doing a particular task and what shall be the outcome of it. They are thankful for the opportunity they have in hand and they cherish it.

The day you feel thankful for where you are and the opportunities you have is the day you shall stop worrying and shall start growing.

No person can grow without overcoming challenges in life. If today, you are facing a challenge in your career or academics , be thankful to god as it shows that you have a golden opportunity to overcome it and grow.
Once you overcome the challenge you will come out of the bubble of hopelessness and grow into a more confident individual. 

Trust, a Gift to Cherish

Trust is one of the most important things in a relationship.

It is  one of the building blocks of the peace of mind of every human being.
Humans have a tendency to associate themselves to people and association gives birth to trust.

Trust usually starts at a very minimal level, the level where you first exchange your names and identities. It grows further with exchange of numbers and so on.

Trust is a gift which is given to one person from another. The extent of a person's trust in another person shows how big the gift is.
Once a trust is broken , it is difficult for a person to go back to the level of trust he instilled in the other person, however humans are emotional fools and they tend to go back to the level of trust with a pinch of caution.

One should always cherish the gift of trust one receives from their friends and family. This is the first step towards maintaining the peace of mind of oneself and of their loved ones.

A baby starts walking holding the closest object to him , trusting the object. If that object is light in weight, which makes the baby fall, the baby will take a while to hold it again or he may choose not to hold it ever again , inorder to walk.

In the similar way, people hold on to people trusting them , that they would give them companionship and support whenever needed inorder to walk down the journey of life. If not, the entire life , atleast a part of it.
When those people , due to their lightness in loyalty, break their trust, people often leave them or become cautious of them.

Experience- The ultimate Scrub

Experience brings confidence .

There are days when you feel demotivated looking at people working so efficiently.
These days are the stepping stones to your successful days because these days will only push you further to work harder and learn more.
No one wants to fail and everybody wishes to be in good books if not explicitly, it would be  implicitly.

You should always remember if a patch is smooth today it is because of the continuous rubbing of the rugged parts.
Consider Success as the same patch in your life and experience as the scrub , continuously rubbing you.

The day you find that patch smooth , consider yourself well experienced and success shall follow.

Maturity

I came across a beautiful message. 

It is not a message written by me but i wish to share it with everyone. 

*What is maturity? - by Adi Shankara*

1. Maturity is *when you stop trying to change others, ...instead focus on changing yourself.*

2. Maturity is when you

*accept people as they are.*

3. Maturity is when you

*understand everyone is right in their own perspective.*

4. Maturity is when you  

*learn to "let go".*

5. Maturity is when you are

able to *drop "expectations" from a relationship and give for the sake of giving.*

6. Maturity is when you

*understand whatever you do, you do for your own peace.*

7. Maturity is when you 

*stop proving to the world, how intelligent you are.*

8. Maturity is when you 

*don't seek approval from others.*

9. Maturity is when you 

*stop comparing with others.*

10. Maturity is when you 

*are at peace with yourself.*

11. Maturity is when you 

*are able to differentiate between "need" and "want" and are able to let go of your wants.**& last but most meaningful !*

12. You gain Maturity when you 

*stop attaching "happiness" to material things !!*

The reason why your present is a 'Present'!

Each one of us faces insecurity. We might be insecure about our jobs or friendships/relationships. We always wish to have the perfect life , the perfect job ,the perfect set of friends and the perfect relationship.

 What is perfect? Definately what sounds best to us and matches us and our needs or should i say greed?

We do tend to believe that we live in a hypothetical world and if we have something which is perfect for us, our rational side of the brain tells us that it will definately come to an end! Then why not i end it myself early , earlier than it is meant to end so that i donot hurt myself because.... I want the perfect life. 

We all become rational as we grow up and learn how to protect ourselves. We protect ourselves so much that it becomes a habit and before anything wrong can happen to us ,we wear the shield inorder to protect ourselves.

When we were babies we didnot wear that shield and we braved the world fearlessly. We never worried about the toy that gave us so much of happiness and which brought a huge smile on our faces or made us spring up with joy , would one day go away. 

We never worried about the toy being snatched away from us. 

We enjoyed our present and didnot worry about our future. 

If today you have that toy in your hand, enjoy it ,you dont need to be rational and let it go just because you think that one day it will  have to leave you. Its Yours and you will decide whether it will stay or has to go. It shall never leave you until you leave it and i am sure you dont want to leave it.  Live your present and dont let your past mistakes haunt you or your future inhibitions hold you back. There is a reason why past is called past and the present is called 'present',  it is a gift from god to you. Enjoy and cherish your present and write your future with a smile and positive attitude. 

Do you have it all?

It is a very ironic thought that the wise tell you to believe , you have it all and go on the stage and set it on fire.

Do we really have it all to make that mark in the world? 

To build your conifdence, well the answer is definately , Yes! 

When you actually come face to face with the world , the answer might change . 

It is good to feel at the top of the world and feel that you have learnt all that you had to and achieved all that you had to and now nobody can beat you.

But remember the reason why you are at the top is because you beat someone in that. 

And just like you , the person before you had done that too. 

Never stop learning and never feel that you have achieved it all , there still might be something which you could create on your own and learn from yourself. 

Learning never had an end and it shall never do.

Never look up to your teacher and  say that now you dont need any more classes or any more learning because you have mastered it all. There is a reason that he is your teacher and you are a student. 

Your teacher will never say i have mastered it all and i dont need to practice it anymore and that is the difference between a teacher and a student. 

Teachers know that knowledge and learning is eternal. 

The tree named relationship.

Human biengs build and live relationships. They put more efforts in building a relationship than nurturing it.

Cutting the tree called relationship when the bark starts getting thicker is a self defence mechanism that they go through. 

They tend to forget they push away the people who care and love them the most. 

Relationships are a very integral part of a person's growth and peace of mind. Attaching to a certain person makes a person more aware about himself/herself. 

Just like meditation helps you reconnect with yourself and reconnect with your actions in the past , relationships help you know you and the reason for your actions.

Take a minute to remember every person in your life who has made a difference and made you who you are today. 

I bet you are related to them. Maybe through past actions you mite have cut the bark of the tree called relationship but  remember the roots are still there in the soil. 

If you give the tree enough warmth and water you can again grow it back to the height that it had attained earlier. 

It mite take sometime but dont let go of it because of your insecurity, inhibitions and defensive nature.

Life beyond your boundaries

A regular routine, same surroundings and same kind of people throughout your life will not teach you all that you should learn inorder to evolve and grow as a person.

It is important to come out of your cormfort zone and visit places of life where you would not normally go. Your parents or well wishers cannot take you . 

When you meet new people and live their life or live with them for a few days , you understand the beauty of different tastes and colours that god has made. 

We all are the same yet different in our own special ways. 

And how we mould our thinking and lives is in our hands. 

Pledge to Be different by experiencing Different and you will see different. 

Entry to exit

There is always a reason as to why people associate with you. You might feel that you love someone unconditionally and will do anything for them , make endless sacrifices when the time comes to sacrifice. We are 99% of the times wrong. It is true that when somebody helps us in need  or is just there for us even otherwise , as social animals, we do have emotions and we wish to give back the affection through our sacrifices yet we only consider it and not actually make the sacrifice.

There is a reason why you have friends , teachers , collegues. They all are related to your needsand they   satisfy them.

There is only one relation , that is the relation of blood which nobody questions yet there is a story to it as well. 

Your parents brought you to this world to extend their family and to continue their legacy. 

You come in this world alone yet when you leave this world you take so many associations and relations with you. You definately make an exit alone but you take feelings , emotions and if lucky souls  with you. 

Direct the Direction

I believe people are not borne leaders. Leaders are created by the people who have led them in life.

Even the leaders you look upto need mentors to direct them to the correct path.  We live in  a world of social beings , if one leads the other today , tomorrow the person led yesterday might lead someone else and the link keeps getting bigger.

We decide our own direction however we may choose to either walk the road already built or build our own roads. It depends on our risk taking capacity and the intensity of belief in ourselves.

I am a strong believer of the saying "you shall reach where you are destined to reach " . However, i also believe that it is your actions which create the destiny .Your actions and your luck play a major factor in your destination. Whatever you do to someone today shall eventually come back to you but it is in your luck which decides when it does whether good or bad.

The most an individual can do is have faith. Have faith in himself and the world around that whatever the circumstances may be however his karma will treat him he shall bear the consequences and swim through them whether good or bad.

A person should never stop walking even if it is dark and he is unaware of the surroundings and the path he is walking on because ultimately he mite reach somewhere , somewhere where it is less
darker and  he can plan his journey ahead. Also if he stops walking , the probability of attack increases. It is always easier to attack a static object than a moving one.

So direct your direction , keep moving forward however slow it is but keep walking forward.

Road from Importance to Indifference

The world is built on relationships. We build relationships everyday consciously or unconsciously. 

What is a relationship?

A relationship is a link. It mite be a link between you and an another person or it might be a relationship between you and a non-living object.

There are alot of feelings which emerge out of a relationship and the feeling or the emotion gives a meaning to the relationship. You start feeling the importance of the person/thing in your life and cannot imagine your life without it. You start getting used to it and eventually it becomes a part of your everyday life.

Another feeling which comes gradually is the feeling of taking someone/something for granted. This is a normal tendency with every living being to start taking things which are a part of their everyday routine for granted. 

When we wake up we take it for granted that we shall go to the washroom and freshen up/ brush your teeth. 

A dog, when meets a new person, takes his owner for granted and spends most of the time with the new person. 

A child , when he gets used to the world around him takes his mother for granted and feels as if he doesn't not need her protection anymore. 

We all take our relationships for granted. We understand their importance so much at a point of time that we donot want to let go off it however when few years pass by we take the same thing for granted that before we realize our indifference towards it, its gone. 

Value your relationships , value everybody's feelings because if you feel that you have them ,so do they..

Fading importance

Man is an emotional animal. Emotions lead to feelings and feelings lead to relationships.

When we like somebody we tend to be attracted towards them and when the attraction is mutual , we tend to enter into relationships. 

Relationships give us an edge of others who are merely attracted towards the person we like. 

Relationships give us a sense of superiority in their lives and hence more importance. 

As man is a social animal and feelings build up everytime he sees a new person whether good or bad , our priorities tend to change. 

We want to feel important in every relations's lives and that is the reason why feelings such as frustration and dejection build up. Therfore leading to breaking of bonds and relationships. 

Yet a person who is once in a relationship  with someone wishes to ,still feel the same level of importance in their lives and takes a long time , sometimes more than expected to move on. 

Trust yourself

It is true that trust doesnt come easy. For some of us , it does. We suddenly become too happy about a new relationship and start trusting even before we completely know that person.

World is full of people with selfish motives. Some people are hardwired like that and some become like that due to their recent experiences. One should learn from their mistakes and not be foolish and trust people blindly too soon.

Everytime someone betrays your trust you feel a part of you has withered away.

One should make oneself believe that no matter who and how many people betray your trust , it is always a learning experience for you to not make the same mistake again.

If one trusts oneself ,he/she doesnot need anybody else. One person is enough and that is you ,yourself.

Hidden Reality

Many if us judge the book by its cover.
what i mean by this is we judge alot of people in our own heads within a span of 1 minute ,the first time we meet them . We gradually get to know them better. Sometimes we like them, sometimes we feel we love them and sometimes we happen to detest them.
This is normal human psychology and tendency.

What is important is, out of the people we meet, judge , like or love , how many stick around and stand by the opinion we had created about them at first in our own heads. How many of them change our opinions about them. True, some surprise us with heir positivity and some surprise us with their change in nature by and by the time they stay and interact with you.

Its true that things take time and so do people.
They take time to unveil what is inside and what they are made of. Some people show their true colors soon and some take time. Trust and friendship and two very deep and important words. Their roots go deep , deeper than you can imagine. These roots take time to get stronger.

Taking inspiration from nature, even the bark takes time to get stronger and thicker. So does a relationship , trust and friendship.

It is true that man is a selfish animal and does not give away things unconditionally. If today somebody is favoring you , remember tomorrow he/she will definately claim it back. Sometimes it will be clearly visible and sometimes it wont be.

Train your eyes to see the hidden reality or else you shall be buried deep inside the soil in thise selfish world.